As the temperatures and leaves begin falling, and shorter days and longer nights arrive, the crisp breath of autumn reminds us that Thanksgiving is almost here. Inspired by the 1621 Thanksgiving feast held by the Pilgrims in New England, Thanksgiving is traditionally a day of gratitude and celebration of the many blessings in our lives.
For those in recovery, Thanksgiving can present a unique challenge. Large gatherings, familiar faces, specific holiday foods and the alcohol that often accompanies them can all be triggering. Memories of past Thanksgivings spent drinking or using can often resurface, making it hard to stay grounded in the present moment.
But challenges aside, Thanksgiving can also be a powerful moment for those in recovery—a chance to embrace the holiday’s spirit of gratitude while strengthening their commitment to sobriety. The day offers a special opportunity to reflect on progress, reconnect with supportive people, and build healthy, sober traditions.
In truth, no holiday aligns with recovery more than Thanksgiving! Gratitude is an incredibly potent tool, especially in recovery. As a fundamental aspect of the AA’s 12 Steps and 12 Principles, it is seen as critical for sustaining long-term sobriety and overall recovery. An “attitude of gratitude” teaches us to focus on the many blessings in our lives, large and small, and to maintain a humble, happy, and thankful spirit. In the 10th Step in particular, where we are encouraged to take a daily inventory of our actions, identifying and appreciating the good is of great importance.
Gratitude has the power to transform not only your experience of the holidays, but your entire perspective on your life’s journey. Imagine starting Thanksgiving Day with a list of people, achievements, or even small everyday blessings you’re thankful for. This “gratitude list” can elevate your entire mood, providing a fresh perspective on life. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we do have, magnifying our blessings tenfold and enriching us in a tangible way. And when shared at the table, it can be contagious - it encourages everyone to see the positives in their lives too, creating a joyous and contented mood.
Although Thanksgiving is typically centered around tradition, it’s a great chance to start some new ones that reflect a sober, healthy lifestyle. Rather than focusing on alcohol or substances, shift the day’s emphasis to experiences that bring connection and joy. Try a group activity or bring a fun, alcohol-free drink that everyone can enjoy, like a seasonal mocktail. If you love to cook, experiment with dishes that are delicious and comforting, making the meal itself a celebration.
Staying connected to others through the holidays is also key. Whether through family, friends, or a recovery group, being surrounded by supportive people can ease anxiety and reinforce your goals. Attending a meeting before gathering with family can ground and remind you that you’re not alone.
With Thanksgiving’s cozy, busy atmosphere, it’s easy to feel overstimulated or exhausted. Practice mindfulness techniques, like deep breathing, to stay present and calm when things feel intense. Taking a moment outside or excusing yourself for some quiet time can help you reset if anxiety starts creeping in. Remember to be patient with yourself. Holidays in recovery can be challenging, but they’re also an opportunity to experience true joy without substances. Thanksgiving can be so much more than a holiday—this year, it can be a celebration of your progress, your growth, and the people who support you along the way.
This Thanksgiving, embrace the holiday spirit by practicing gratitude and spreading joy through healthy new traditions. You’ll not only create a holiday filled with meaning and warmth, but set a lasting foundation for thankfulness and joy, free from all substances!